tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-358573767741921909.post4853508045391030747..comments2023-12-27T05:08:48.974-05:00Comments on nefaeria: Homesteading/Homemaking & Privilegenefaeriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068749178602795562noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-358573767741921909.post-33718348716006424092010-09-19T21:40:19.649-04:002010-09-19T21:40:19.649-04:00As someone who rants for business and pleasure, I ...As someone who rants for business and pleasure, I say embrace your angry side! It will serve you at times - as long as you know when and where to employ it. There's nothing wrong with calling shenanigans when someone's shoveling the bullshit around.<br /><br />This woman, with her views, can claim to be a 'feminist' but hers are such patriarchal views that I have to wonder if feminists even think of embracing actual 'matriarchal' ways of thinking for all they claim to be on 'woman's side'. <br /><br />"Since most patriarchal socialized women and men are not able to think out of patriarchal norms, they don't get the meaning of the term 'matriarchy'. <br />Most people believe mistakenly, that matriarchy is a simple reversal of patriarchy: What men do now would be taken over by women. Just an exchange of roles. ...<br />The patriarchal way of thinking is about the "Active Doing", means people are measured on their actions. It is difficult for us to think the matriarchal way, where persons are measured by their "Being" and their form of energy. "<br /><br />Men can think in a matriarchal way as well, and I think that's what this woman needs a good dose of - that, and perspective.<br /><br />I truly understand how women from ... say 1990 and previous, would cringe at the idea of a woman choosing to stay at home instead of wedging herself into a power-suit with massive shoulderpads and 'showing men a thing or two'. Those women had to endure SO MUCH to get us where we are today and I'm so thankful.<br />But they should remember they fought to give us CHOICE. <br />They shouldn't bitch about what choices we make now - or they're just as bad as the system they fought.<br /><br />Keep up the great posts, Laurel :)Medusaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03245177292191521012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-358573767741921909.post-63237618957260663612010-09-19T21:27:19.424-04:002010-09-19T21:27:19.424-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Medusaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03245177292191521012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-358573767741921909.post-38985898844116501412010-09-08T07:16:14.182-04:002010-09-08T07:16:14.182-04:00I am one of those people she is talking about and ...I am one of those people she is talking about and I live on a pension. That woman should really keep her assumptions in check because they are way off base.Herthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10959431865258195203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-358573767741921909.post-59933888039710666212010-09-02T10:56:56.904-04:002010-09-02T10:56:56.904-04:00Thanks for sharing your thoughts folks! :)
Medusa...Thanks for sharing your thoughts folks! :)<br /><br />Medusa’s Arrow: Ya, unfortunately this shit is not out of character for her. At least there are some folks on YouTube who are not prone to asshatery. ;)<br /><br />FreeDragon & Ivy: I am glad to hear from other women who are interested in the ‘domestic arts’ and I agree with both of you. I do think eventually our current system will fall on its arse and am quite hopeful of the potential afterwards. And I do wish you both luck in being able to homestead {or whatever you choose to call it} in a way that is both rewarding and realistic. :)<br /><br />Bek: Indeed! I was hoping you would reply to this. I had you in mind when I was originally writing this post and the last thing I think of in regards to you folks is selfish/individualistic…more like inspiring and awesome. :)nefaeriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04068749178602795562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-358573767741921909.post-53532401729887875182010-09-02T02:55:59.677-04:002010-09-02T02:55:59.677-04:00It's always the same...finding something you d...It's always the same...finding something you do believe in and <i>actually doing it</i> is not considered activism, only selfish. Sometimes we need inspiration not yet another thing to oppose. <br /><br />There are many females - and often blokes 'staying at home' (I've heard of countless examples of it being an equal thing) who are actually trying to prove that 'another world is possible' however they can, with whatever they've got (and that's also often NOT a huge second income!). One that's not just wage slavery and cheer-you-up consumerism.Bekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078067705741914826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-358573767741921909.post-73120458617080827562010-08-27T10:45:04.217-04:002010-08-27T10:45:04.217-04:00::grits teeth:: I hate feminists who demean house ...::grits teeth:: I hate feminists who demean house wives and women who make more domestic choices. I don't stay at home (lacking the 'wife' portion of housewife) but I do have a slew of traditionally domestic hobbies. I'm really tired of the looking down the nose, or the lectures about how I'm too 'smart' to stay at home if I mention I'd consider it. <br /><br />That said, there is a degree of privilege, namely in the 2nd income. I do wish that we had a system that made it possible to fully support oneself but I don't think we do...so as a single person, I read a lot of homesteading blogs and sigh wistfully. I've still got a few trick up my sleeve, though...and as things change in the world, who knows what will become possible?Ivyhttp:/www.quirkyknitgirl.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-358573767741921909.post-69879096125040860432010-08-27T06:52:51.083-04:002010-08-27T06:52:51.083-04:00I've been the stay at home wife, and I've ...I've been the stay at home wife, and I've been working wife. I feel that this is a 'damned if you do, damned if you don't' thing. Sometimes the only way a woman can prove she's amking a choice is to make all of them. The problem is, no one can do it all for long. When I stayed home I was very happy, but the people who criticized me the most for it were women. I finding staying home to be a busier job than the workforce. I've never been one to lay on the couch all day. I garden and sew and cook and handle all the errands like waiting for repairmen and making sure the bills are paid. I enjoy most of this, and I would love to quit my job so I could put all my energy into making my home the ideal retreat from the world. One of the reasons I finding working to be the easier choice is that at the end of the day I can leave my job. The home is never really finished. Our homes represent our true selves. It seems to me most people have forgotten this. Instead of wanting to be ourselves we look to corporations and the media to tell us what to buy. I think that is why etsy is so popular, somewhere along the way we lost our skills. We don't seem to know how to reclaim them. Sometimes I bring my sewing projects to work and the women have the most comments. The say they never learned 'that stuff', they don't have time, or 'why don't you just buy it?' I think if we suddenly lost all our retail stores people would go crazy. No one would know what to do for food or heat or anything else. Our current system is very broken and we have no alternate plans. I think the question is not if captialism will fail, but when.FreeDragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08500045196989222174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-358573767741921909.post-21614586697216480632010-08-26T20:33:19.743-04:002010-08-26T20:33:19.743-04:00It makes me laugh how this chick goes on & on ...It makes me laugh how this chick goes on & on criticizing the "privilege" of others but in the same breath she will sanctimoniously tell others with less then her what they should think and want. Gotta love her. iremythpurr reminds me of the church lady.Medusa's Arrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08137682050175454100noreply@blogger.com