Saturday, December 5, 2009


I have been on quite a mission lately to find a good summary of what integrity is.

Personally I think that at the end of the day our integrity is all we have. We need it to be in tact to have healthy relationships, and it is very much affected by our actions. Our level of integrity will be with us long after we shed our physical form.

But what is integrity exactly? What does it mean to possess it?

I found this quote by Barbara De Angelis that I think answers those questions nicely {please note: that this is a rare instance where I would quote a 'relationship guru'!}:

Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe. {source of quote}

Perhaps a rare thing and I hope that you are all blessed with it! :)




perma_culture said...

You know something one minute I will be laughing from one of your entries and then really thinking the next. That is why I love your blog =^)

nefaeria said...

Thank you Permie! That means a lot! :)

Pyke said...

Thank you for that.

Bek said...

I've been thinking about this sort of thing recently too...sometimes it's hard to know when to speak up, even if it might cause conflict. Especially with people close to you. It can sometimes seem like a good idea to keep quiet, but it's true, I'm left with a bad feeling about not being honest...

nefaeria said...

Pyke: You are most welcome. :)

Bek: I think that is something many of us struggle with. Whatever your own situation is, I am sure you will make the right decision and I hope that it goes smoothly for you. :)